Have you ever felt like you have been typecast? You always play the role of “bigger” person, “most considerate,” “glue”, and “superhuman.” You play those roles so good that no one every thinks about you. People depend on you so much that the whole “play” would be cancelled without you playing your role in their lives. Let’s break it down so that it can REALLY be understood.
BIGGER person- You are always the person that apologizes first, gives in first, and takes it for the “team.” You can never lose weight because you are always playing the BIGGER person.
Most Considerate- You still dust off your Miss/Mr. Congeniality trophy off once a week. You are the one who plans the company’s potluck. All your dates end with “you are so nice and sweet but….”You wonder why the jerks and bad people get everything. Society tells you that nice people finish last but what they don’t tell you is that nice people wait longer to finish first.
GLUE- The world would not make it without you. (That rhymed did you get that?) You keep everything together. Your phone rings constantly because people need you or maybe you need to be needed. Your nickname is “peacemaker.” You think everyone should get along, hold hands, and sing “Kumbaya.” You know the person in the choir who wants to sing this as a solo. They can’t sing a lick but you let them do it anyway because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. Everyone deserves a chance to hurt someone’s eardrums, right? Everyone else comes first and you are always last.
SUPERHUMAN- You have an “S” on your chest but your name starts with “T.” Your close friends call you “tired” for short. The reason for this is that you get tired from having saved everybody. You rush to the aid of people who don’t even call you. You wear so many hats that you become color blind to what matches what. You become invisible to the average person because they don’t see you as human. They see you as the bank, the nurturer, the confidant, etc. You find yourself frustrated because you help people who do not even try to help themselves. You feel helpful when you do things but guilty when you don’t.
“Associates” (not a friend), “Emotional Vampire” (you have perfected sucking the life out of people), “Takers” (you take “give and take” literally-someone gives and your role is to take).
How about taking on the role of “forgiver”, “appreciative,” or “thankful?” God gave us all roles to play and some may be harder than others. He will never give us a role that he doesn’t equip us to be able to play and to play well. Someone has to do it so why not you? Today think about what role you play in people lives. Do people love to see you coming or grateful to see you leaving?